FlyLady uses that same word... CHAOS. Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome. She claims that learning to beat back the chaos means you are FLYing. Finally Loving Yourself.
But Scripture says that no one ever hated [her] own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it (Eph 5:29). Bringing order from chaos is not finally loving myself. Love of self is what brought about the chaos in the first place.
Me and the FlyLady are good buds, mind you. God used her to give me hope for my home. I've been in a grief interlude, but I'm beginning her baby steps over again. I'm currently what she calls a FlyBaby, but this time, I toyed with changing the name. FOG Baby, maybe. Finally Obeying God. Or CRY Baby. Chaos Restored by Yahweh. Or perhaps SHY Baby. System of Home Ymanagement. (That's a new word I just made up. Ymanagement.)
But what I really want to focus on are the little snapshots of redemption. Those object lessons present in every task I perform. That continuous whisper from Abba, "I love You, I saved You, You are Mine. I love You, I saved You, You are Mine..."
FlyLady's first baby step is to shine the sink, and God gave me a passage to go with it, which made the task a time of meditation and peace. I hope you are reminded, the next time you clean your sink, of the great love God has for you.
1 ~ Have mercy on me, O God,
according to Your steadfast love;
according to Your abundant mercy
blot out my transgressions.
2 ~ Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity
and cleanse me from my sin!
3 ~ For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is ever before me.
4a ~ Against You, You only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in Your sight...
4b ~ ...so that You may be justified in Your words...
4c ~ ...and blameless in Your judgment.
5a ~ Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity...
5b ~ ...and in sin did my mother conceive me.
6a ~ Behold, You delight in truth in the inward being...
6b ~ ...and You teach me wisdom in the secret heart.
7a ~ Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean...
7b ~ ...wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
8 ~ Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones that You have broken rejoice.
9 ~ Hide Your face from my sins,
and blot out my iniquities.
10 ~ Create in me a clean heart, O God,
and renew a right spirit within me.
11 ~ Cast me not away from your presence,
and take not Your Holy Spirit from me.
12a ~ Restore to me the joy of Your salvation...
12b ~ ...and uphold me with a willing spirit.
13a ~ Then I will teach transgressors Your way...
13b ~ ...and sinners will return to You.
14a ~ Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God...
14b ~ ...O God of my salvation...
14c ~ ...and my tongue will sing aloud of Your righteousness.
15 ~ O Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will declare Your praise.
16 ~ For You will not delight in sacrifice, or I would give it;
You will not be pleased with a burnt offering.
17 ~ The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.
18 ~ Do good to Zion in Your good pleasure;
build up the walls of Jerusalem.
19 ~ Then will You delight in right sacrifices,
in burnt offerings and whole burnt offerings;
then bulls will be offered on Your altar.